Lorane Jay Butler

  • Born: October 30, 1944
  • Died: January 30, 2019
  • Location: San Antonio, Texas

Porter Loring Mortuary

1101 McCullough Avenue
San Antonio, TX 78212

Tel. (210) 227-8221

Tribute & Message From The Family

... a man of pure kindness, intelligence and humility ...

Lorane Jay Butler, age 74, passed away on Wednesday, January 30, 2019 in San Antonio, TX. Jay was born on October 30, 1944 in Burden, Kansas, to parents, Lorane Wayne Butler and Edna Marie Lytle. Jay was born six short months before the Nazi horde surrendered in Europe, to put him into the perspective of world history. His parents wanted to carry on a family name, so he became Lorane Jay Butler, but Mother decided to call him Jay. Known his whole life as a man of pure kindness, intelligence and humility; Jay was a friend to everyone.

Jay spent his entire childhood in Winfield, Kansas. He grew up with fond memories of sunny days on the lake spent splashing with his beloved sister, Linda and later with his treasured brother, Norman. Jay was incredibly intelligent, and he studied a lot. He graduated from Winfield High School, where he played clarinet in band and sang in the chorus, as baritone and bass. He was a bit of a loner but had a small cadre of loyal friends. He was fortunate to reunite with many of those friends at his 55th high school reunion in 2017.
Upon graduating high school, Jay moved to Emporia, Kansas. After spending a year at Phillips University, thinking he needed to become a preacher, Jay changed course. He transferred to Kansas State Teacher's College (now Emporia State University) in Emporia. He graduated with a Bachelor of Arts in Mathematics in 1970. He continued his studies receiving a Master of Arts in Mathematics in 1971 - the title of his Master's Thesis was Rings Associated With Finite Abelian Groups.

While in Emporia, he met and married his first wife. They had three children; Julie, Dawn and Scott. Throughout the 1960s, Jay raised his young family and worked his way through college as a milkman, gas station attendant, and postal worker. During his time working at Philips 66 on the Emporia Turnpike he met Jim Moore. Jay and Jim went on to become lifelong best friends, comrades, and fishing buddies.

In the early 1970s he moved to St Louis where he began working for Southwestern Bell Telephone Company. After spending several years in St Louis, he relocated to Houston, Texas via Southwestern Bell. During the 1980s he remarried and had a daughter; Sarah. In 1992, he retired from the telephone company to be a stay-at-home dad. He returned to the workforce in 1997. After spending a total of 35 years administering telephone systems, he retired from Total Petrochemicals in 2014.

Upon retiring he relocated one last time to San Antonio, Texas. He spent his final years being involved in a variety of activities with St. Matthew's UMC and helping with his grandsons in the afternoon. Unfortunately, Jay fell ill in April 2018. After a two-month hospital stay he moved in with his daughter, Sarah, who became his primary caregiver. Jay passed peacefully at home, with his daughter by his side. Jay was the kindest man we've ever known, and he will be missed.

Jay was preceded in death by his father, Lorane Wayne Butler. He is survived by his 98-year-old mother, Marie Butler of Winfield, Kansas; Daughter, Julie VanDeburgh of Medford, OK, and husband, Craig; Grandchildren, Andrew VanDeburgh and Garrett VanDeburgh; Daughter Dawn Marino of Grand Junction, CO; Son, Scott Butler of Arvada, CO, and wife Jayme; Grandchildren, Logan Butler and Samantha Butler; Daughter, Sarah Butler of San Antonio, Texas and husband, Brian Estenson; Grandchildren, Gregory Riekhof and Loren Jay Estenson. He is also survived by his sister, Linda Bowlby and husband, Harvey; brother, Norman Butler and wife Janet; Nieces and nephews, Chris Bowlby and wife Colette, Kendra Baker and husband Rodney, Brian Pike and wife Sarah, Jason Pike, Jessica Pike, Loren Carl Butler and his partner Heather Carr; Great nephews and great nieces – Dillan Bowlby, Chase Baker, Paige Baker, Mikey McGuire, Megan McGuire, Coda Baker, Payton Tickel, Ryker Bowlby, Adeline Butler.

We joyfully invite all family and friends of Lorane Jay Butler to attend his memorial and meal as we remember the kindest man we've ever known.

When: Saturday, March 23, 2019
Time: 11:00am-2:00pm
Lunch will be provided
Where: Baden Square Community Center
1401 E 6th Avenue, Winfield, KS

Dad loved a good reunion.
Dad loved hanging out with family and friends.
Dad loved a good story and a good laugh.

So in honor of his life and wishes we are hosting a family style meal for all to chat, tell stories, and spend time with a lost friend or family member.

The memorial is scheduled to begin at 11:00am. Immediately following the memorial all are invited and encouraged to stay for a meal and laughter.


Condolence & Memory Journal

Grief can be so hard, but our special memories help us cope. Remembering you and your loved one today and always.

Posted by Roger Frey - Sealy, TX - coworker   January 28, 2020


Posted by Connie Schuyler Smith - Winfield, KS - Friend   February 07, 2019


Posted by Schuyler Smith - Winfield, KS - Acquaintance   February 07, 2019

Please accept my condolences for your loss. Grief can be so hard, but the fond memories you cherish can comfort and sustain you during this time. 1 Peter 5:6, 7: Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God, so that he may exalt you in due time, while you throw all your anxiety on him, because he cares for you.

Posted by A friend   February 05, 2019

One of the best supervisors I had @ SBC.

Posted by Jill Phillips - Houston, TX - Coworker   February 05, 2019

Jay was a very good friend of mine during our days at Southwestern Bell Telephone. He was such a great guy with a sense of humor that I will never forget. He was always a gentle person, smart, and kind to all around him. I feel so fortunate that I got to know such a sweet soul who always put others before himself. May it comfort you to know that he was a wonderful co-worker, and friend to so many. My prayers are for all of his other friends and family at this time.

Posted by Sally Whittington - Nassau Bay, TX - Coworker   February 04, 2019

I worked with Jay a number of years at what is now AT&T. My condolences to the family. Jay was a fine person that I enjoyed being associated with.

Posted by Jim Rooks - Dallas, TX - Coworker   February 04, 2019

My condolences to Jay's Family, his obituary defines the person he was. I had the pleasure of working for Jay and with him at (SWBT, SBC, AT&T). He certainly was a man of intelligence, kindness and humility. I am proud to call Jay my friend, he could always be counted on when he could be of assistance. He was a personal friend that helped me thru a ruff time in my life. Jay always had unconditional love for his Family. It's so difficult to lose someone that is so close. It pays tribute to Jay and his Family, that Sarah left her job to be take care of her Father in the final stage of life. I am unable to attend Jays services, God Bless

Posted by Chet Payne - Rowlett, TX - Friend   February 04, 2019

May the family be comforted by Jesus' promise of seeing your dear loved one again. John 6:40.

Posted by A. L.    February 03, 2019

Jay was a wonderful man, I had the privilege to work with him for several years. He so enjoyed his grandchildren. My prayers for the family.

Posted by Betty Schoppe - Sealy, TX - Coworker   February 03, 2019

Jay was a very special person in our lives. His children and siblings mean the world to us all. He will be missed terribly, but I find comfort knowing he is with family and friends, forever watching over us all.

Posted by Susan Butler-Mayes - Hutchinson, KS - Family   February 03, 2019

Losing a loved one is never easy, but our loving god promises to give the strength and courage you'll need to endure, and to cope with the pain of your loss. He also promises to hold your hand every step of the way. (Isaiah 40:29, 41:10, 13)

Posted by A friend   February 03, 2019

I worked for Jay at Bell for many years and never had a better boss - those were good days.

Posted by LLOYD BOONE BOONE - Silsbee, TX - Coworker   February 02, 2019

My condolences and prayers for the family. Jay, a good friend, will be missed. I will certainly miss our bragging/sharing conversations about our grandchildren and their conquests.
R.I.P. old friend.

Posted by A friend   February 02, 2019

Jay was my first cousin, like a big brother to me and a good friend. We had innumerable good times when we were kids. His mom (my dad's sister) and dad were like second parents to me. Memories of Jay and his sister Linda are among my earliest. Wish we could have seen more of each other over the years, but life took us in different directions. Rest in peace, Jay.

Posted by Arnold Lytle - Fircrest, WA - Family   February 02, 2019

My deepest sympathy for your loss. May you find comfort to know that he will return to the days of his youthful vigor as promised at Job 33:25

Posted by - TX   February 02, 2019

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