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Lorane Jay Butler

Obituary for Lorane Jay Butler

October 30, 1944 - January 30, 2019
San Antonio, Texas | Age 74

... a man of pure kindness, intelligence and humility ...


Lorane Jay Butler, age 74, passed away on Wednesday, January 30, 2019 in San Antonio, TX. Jay was born on October 30, 1944 in Burden, Kansas, to parents, Lorane Wayne Butler and Edna Marie Lytle. Jay was born six short months before the Nazi horde surrendered in Europe, to put him into the perspective of world history. His parents wanted to carry on a family name, so he became Lorane Jay Butler, but Mother decided to call him Jay. Known his whole life as a man of pure kindness, intelligence and humility; Jay was a friend to everyone.

Jay spent his entire childhood in Winfield, Kansas. He grew up with fond memories of sunny days on the lake spent splashing with his beloved sister, Linda and later with his treasured brother, Norman. Jay was incredibly intelligent, and he studied a lot. He graduated from Winfield High School, where he played clarinet in band and sang in the chorus, as baritone and bass. He was a bit of a loner but had a small cadre of loyal friends. He was fortunate to reunite with many of those friends at his 55th high school reunion in 2017.
Upon graduating high school, Jay moved to Emporia, Kansas. After spending a year at Phillips University, thinking he needed to become a preacher, Jay changed course. He transferred to Kansas State Teacher's College (now Emporia State University) in Emporia. He graduated with a Bachelor of Arts in Mathematics in 1970. He continued his studies receiving a Master of Arts in Mathematics in 1971 - the title of his Master's Thesis was Rings Associated With Finite Abelian Groups.

While in Emporia, he met and married his first wife. They had three children; Julie, Dawn and Scott. Throughout the 1960s, Jay raised his young family and worked his way through college as a milkman, gas station attendant, and postal worker. During his time working at Philips 66 on the Emporia Turnpike he met Jim Moore. Jay and Jim went on to become lifelong best friends, comrades, and fishing buddies.

In the early 1970s he moved to St Louis where he began working for Southwestern Bell Telephone Company. After spending several years in St Louis, he relocated to Houston, Texas via Southwestern Bell. During the 1980s he remarried and had a daughter; Sarah. In 1992, he retired from the telephone company to be a stay-at-home dad. He returned to the workforce in 1997. After spending a total of 35 years administering telephone systems, he retired from Total Petrochemicals in 2014.

Upon retiring he relocated one last time to San Antonio, Texas. He spent his final years being involved in a variety of activities with St. Matthew's UMC and helping with his grandsons in the afternoon. Unfortunately, Jay fell ill in April 2018. After a two-month hospital stay he moved in with his daughter, Sarah, who became his primary caregiver. Jay passed peacefully at home, with his daughter by his side. Jay was the kindest man we've ever known, and he will be missed.

Jay was preceded in death by his father, Lorane Wayne Butler. He is survived by his 98-year-old mother, Marie Butler of Winfield, Kansas; Daughter, Julie VanDeburgh of Medford, OK, and husband, Craig; Grandchildren, Andrew VanDeburgh and Garrett VanDeburgh; Daughter Dawn Marino of Grand Junction, CO; Son, Scott Butler of Arvada, CO, and wife Jayme; Grandchildren, Logan Butler and Samantha Butler; Daughter, Sarah Butler of San Antonio, Texas and husband, Brian Estenson; Grandchildren, Gregory Riekhof and Loren Jay Estenson. He is also survived by his sister, Linda Bowlby and husband, Harvey; brother, Norman Butler and wife Janet; Nieces and nephews, Chris Bowlby and wife Colette, Kendra Baker and husband Rodney, Brian Pike and wife Sarah, Jason Pike, Jessica Pike, Loren Carl Butler and his partner Heather Carr; Great nephews and great nieces – Dillan Bowlby, Chase Baker, Paige Baker, Mikey McGuire, Megan McGuire, Coda Baker, Payton Tickel, Ryker Bowlby, Adeline Butler.

We joyfully invite all family and friends of Lorane Jay Butler to attend his memorial and meal as we remember the kindest man we've ever known.

When: Saturday, March 23, 2019
Time: 11:00am-2:00pm
Lunch will be provided
Where: Baden Square Community Center
1401 E 6th Avenue, Winfield, KS

Dad loved a good reunion.
Dad loved hanging out with family and friends.
Dad loved a good story and a good laugh.

So in honor of his life and wishes we are hosting a family style meal for all to chat, tell stories, and spend time with a lost friend or family member.

The memorial is scheduled to begin at 11:00am. Immediately following the memorial all are invited and encouraged to stay for a meal and laughter.

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Porter Loring Mortuary

1101 McCullough Avenue
San Antonio, TX 78212
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