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Betty Ann (Archey) Monestier

Obituary for Betty Ann (Archey) Monestier

July 30, 1937 - August 12, 2020
San Antonio, Texas | Age 83


Betty Ann (Archey) Monestier (July 30, 1937– Aug. 12 ,2020), devoted wife, mother and grandmother, proud and loving aunt, loyal friend and neighbor.
Betty is preceded in death by her parents, Virgil and Louise Archey, and by her husband, Chris S. Monestier. She is survived by her son, Chris M. Monestier (Miriam), and daughter, Beverly Monestier, brother, Stephen Archey (Dora May - deceased) , grandsons, Patrick and Donovan Monestier, as well as nieces, nephews, their posterity, and wonderful, lifelong friends and neighbors.

Betty, or Babe as she was called by her family, grew up as a self-declared "country kid" in and around the Chicago area, playing football with the boys, participating in scouting, dancing on roller skates in competition, dressed in special outfits her mother made. She liked to tell the stories of innocent mischief, having helped to hijack her friend's father's donut truck to distribute snacks at the rink, and finding a way to clandestinely hoist a manure wagon onto the local bank roof, giving the newspaper something exciting to report the next day! She experienced a tornado rip through her neighborhood, and even survived being struck by a "cold bolt" of lightening once while trying to iron one last item before a storm. She was a teenager in the 50s, which also meant watching many she knew be drafted and sent off to war in Korea. Her older brother looked after her and taught her how to do things, like bake pies. Her dad was her hero.

Betty graduated from high school early, accepted a good job waiting for her in banking, and enjoyed a successful career in that field throughout her early adult years. She interrupted it only to start a family around the age of 30. Once her kids were in school, she began a new, decades-long career mainly in education and education administration, working for the Lavens at Criterion Montessori School, for a time with Aleman Food Service, and then both the University of the Incarnate Word and Incarnate Word High School, being very active in campus life and the IW community for many years. Along the way, she also volunteered countless hours, time and talents to St. John the Evangelist parish and school, and then Blessed Sacrament, where her children and later grandchildren attended. She served as a teacher's aid, room mother, various positions in the Parent-Teacher Club and School Board, and as a dedicated cheerleader and football player mom. With a lifelong love for learning, she graduated Magna Cum Laude with a Bachelor of Business Administration Management degree from UIW just a couple months shy of her 63rd birthday!

Betty became a transplanted Texan in her 20s and eventually was able to sound pretty much like everyone else! She still stood out and turned heads. One night she walked into a dancing establishment called the Farmer's Daughter, reputedly wearing purple pants and a red rinse in her hair, and attracted the attention of a certain group of bachelors, including her future husband, who argued and drew straws over who should have the privilege of being the first to ask for a dance. It didn't take long before she was endeared to Chris Monestier's parents, as well. When he passed away last year, they'd been married nearly 53 years! Aside from raising a family together, they enjoyed bowling in a league and dancing a mean jitterbug (both well enough to win awards), camping, trips to Port Aransas, all sorts of activities with extended family on both sides, and in later years, an occasional gambling trip. Betty loved children and being the house where neighborhood kids and her children's friends could feel at home. More than once, other kids went on family vacations with the Monestiers. They lived on Elmwood Street for roughly 50 years, forming long-lasting relationships with many wonderful neighbors, some of whom truly became like family.

Betty had a childlike enthusiasm for life. She enjoyed all kinds of music from multiple eras, loved nature and was fascinated by the intricacies of seashells and interesting rocks, always doted on her cats and dogs as part of the family, played the organ, made jewelry and other crafty items, was a great cook, baked traditional Czech pastries, sewed, knitted, crocheted, made dolls and doll clothes, learned Native American weaving, gardened, played cards and board games, enjoyed a good jigsaw puzzle or word puzzle, and was an especially avid reader, passing on many of her loves to her posterity. She expressed being proud of her son and daughter; her two grandsons were the apple of her eye.

Betty also had a personal relationship with the Lord. She made sacrifices to help send her children to Catholic school, got them to mass each Sunday, took responsibility for teaching them to pray daily, and read scriptures at night with them when they were little. Her example of faith was more than just a set of superficial cultural traditions. She was patient and loving toward others, family members, neighbors, those who were sick or not on best behavior, and even, at times, her enemies. Betty had a way of serving others regardless of her own circumstances at any given time, sometimes anonymously, always without seeking praise or expecting reciprocation, and never in a way that made the recipient of her generosity feel small. She remained incredibly grateful as a person, something that stood out among her many wonderful qualities, until the end of her days.

12:30 P.M.

Betty's services will be livestreamed on Wednesday, August 26, 2020 at 12:30 p.m. Services can be viewed by following the link:

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