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Patricia Mengedoht Ball

Obituary for Patricia Mengedoht Ball

October 4, 1935 - June 24, 2020
San Antonio, Texas | Age 84

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Patricia (Patty) Mengedoht Ball, beloved wife of Major General Thomas P. "Pre" Ball, Jr. MD, USAF Retired, mother, grandmother, great grandmother, sister, aunt and friend rejoined her family in heaven on June 24, 2020.

Patty was born and raised in Charleston, South Carolina, the daughter of Lanville Henry Mengedoht and Claudia Vincent Mengedoht. She was the youngest of their 5 daughters and 2 sons. Tragically her father was killed in a traffic accident 3 months before Patty was born, so she never had the opportunity to know him. Her mother did a fantastic job of raising her 7 children as a single mom during the depression, while working as the postmaster general of Charleston.

Patty had four sisters, Claudia Mengedoht Cain (James R.), Agnes Mengedoht Street (Timothy S.), Ruth Mengedoht Long (David A.), Barbara Mengedoht Jennings Bell (Floyd W., Thomas J.) and two brothers Lanville Henry Mengedoht Jr. (Hazel) and Daniel Mengedoht. MD (Margie MD). Her brother Daniel, and her sister Barbara survive her.

Her 24 nieces and nephews all adored her, as did everyone she met. She was a lovely, charming southern lady, very loving, friendly and kind.

Patty graduated Ashley Hall and attended College of Charleston. After dating for a couple of years, she married the handsome, charming Citadel Cadet, Pre Ball, who was the love of her life. Pre and Patty had met at the Citadel mixer she had attended with her older brother Daniel, a classmate of Pre's. Pre thought he was flirting with Dan's date as a prank, only to be given the responsibility of getting Dan's little sister safely home. They were immediately attracted to each other and the rest was history. Following his graduation from the Citadel, they left her Charleston home to move to Atlanta, Georgia for Pre to attend Emory University Medical School.

During their four years at Emory, Pre and Patty had three daughters within 3 years. After graduation, Pre began his career in the U.S. Air Force with an assignment in Dover, Delaware as a flight surgeon. As such, he traveled frequently while Patty stayed home with the children. Every place they lived she made many friends she kept up with for the rest of her life.

Following the 3 years in Dover, they returned to Atlanta for Pre's 4-year internship and residency at Grady Memorial Hospital. Again long hours kept Pre away from home, but Patty often packed up the children so she and they could see Pre and share a meal at the hospital. She did a wonderful job of raising the three girls and in 1964 Pre and Patty welcomed their fourth child, the long awaited son.

After Pre finished his residency, they moved to Travis AFB, California, and two years after that they moved again to Wiesbaden, Germany. The family took full advantage of their 5 years in Germany. With and without the children, Pre and Patty traveled to many countries and enjoyed skiing and other activities. Patty always made sure that they supported each of the children's interests, whether it was horses, gymnastics, judo, art, cheerleading, Scouts or baseball.

Patty always made their home a very special loving environment. Holidays and birthdays and even small achievements were always celebrated. She took joy in decorating for every holiday, from Easter trees to the scary Halloween voice that startled people upon walking in their bathroom. Decorating the Christmas tree was always such a fun event, and everyone loved the deliberate care she took to make each table setting reflect the event we were celebrating, from fall to Fiesta.

With Patty, love was unconditional. As a result the family always remained very close. Each person felt he/she was the most loved and the most important, and nobody felt second best.

It is a true testament to parents when all of their children say they would choose them for a best friend, even if they were not related.

After Germany, the next assignment was San Antonio, Texas. Patty again was actively involved in the Officers Wives Club and many civic organizations such as the San Antonio Conservation Society, Military Civilian Club, Assistance League of San Antonio, Fiesta and the San Antonio Symphony League.

They also were assigned to Norton AFB in California as well as Andrews AFB in Maryland, before returning to assignments at both Wilford Hall Medical Center and Randolph AFB in San Antonio, where Pre retired after a 33-year military career. Her husband commented that she was so instrumental in his success throughout his career. When he was the medical commander in San Antonio, Patty was the "mother" figure for all the young spouses as they joined his command.

At the retirement ceremony party, Pre had the Air Force Band and Tops In Blue perform the song "Wind Beneath My Wings" as a tribute to Patty, who truly was that and more to him throughout his long career as well as to all of her family. The words of the song brought many people in attendance to tears and the family cannot hear that song to this day without thinking of that moment.

Once again in civilian life, Patty was active in many organizations and enjoyed spending time with her grown children and grandchildren. She swam almost every day and loved to take long walks with their dogs. With friends and/or family they took many cruises or trips to other countries and enjoyed their time together.

She always loved Charleston and returned to visit many times over the years. She cherished the many summer vacations spent on Sullivan's Island and relaxing at the homes of her siblings. Her last trip to Charleston was in 2015 to celebrate her 80th birthday as per her wish. Even though the weather was truly terrible, almost all of her family from South Carolina, Virginia and Texas braved the torrential rains and flooded streets to come celebrate with her. All had a very memorable time.

As her health issues began to appear, she battled each one bravely and without complaint. Everyone was amazed that any single one of those things she faced (quintuple bypass, shingles, broken hip, leukemia and metastatic lung cancer) would take the normal person down, yet she took each successive one on with such great courage.

She always kept a good attitude and tried to stay active and continued to be the glue that has held the family together.

Patty is survived by her husband of 66 years, Major General Thomas P. "Pre" Ball, Jr. MD, USAF Retired. She is also survived by her daughters (and sons/daughter-in-law) Teresa Ball Boyer (Tracy) of Dallas, Texas, Patricia Ball Veley (Richard) of Boerne, Texas, Elizabeth Ball Medley (Christopher) of Terrell Hills, Texas and son Brigadier General Thomas P. "Pre" Ball III (Julie) of Alamo Heights, Texas.

Patty had 12 grandchildren, Richard Veley, Jr., Brad Gaultney (Katie), Daniel Veley, Michael Gaultney, Matthew Veley, Amy Medley Moore MD (Kyle), Christopher Medley Jr. (Samantha), Weston Medley, Thomas P. "Prio" Ball IV (Courtney), Jason Ball, Kelly Boyer and Ryan Boyer.

She had 8 great grandchildren. Ford, Virginia, Sam and Daisy Gaultney of Dallas, Owen Moore of San Antonio and Christopher Medley III of San Antonio, and Madysen Boyer of FL. Sadly, she did not live to see the birth of the great granddaughter due to arrive in mid August.

As a true lover of animals, Patty thoroughly enjoyed the many dogs and cats that shared their home over the years. One of her biggest concerns toward the end of her life was how her animals would understand if she passed before they did. As it happened, her beloved, devoted, elderly dogs Topper and Itty Bitty must now learn to do just that.

There will be a memorial service limited for family only due to COVID-19 concerns.

Patty requested in her will that in lieu of flowers, for those wishing to do something in her honor, we suggest they donate to the Animal Defense League of San Antonio or SNIPSA.org, both which provide no-kill services and adoptions of homeless, stray or neglected/injured dogs and cats.

Animal Defense League of San Antonio
11300 Nacogdoches
San Antonio, TX 78217
https://adltexas.org/donate/

SNIPSA.org
P.O. Box 90325
San Antonio, TX 78209
https://www.snipsa.org

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Suggested Memorial Donations

  • Animal Defense League of San Antonio 11300 Nacogdoches San Antonio, TX 78217 https://adltexas.org/donate/ SNIPSA.org P.O. Box 90325 San Antonio, TX 78209 https://www.snipsa.org

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San Antonio, TX 78212
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